The Asian Man's Crucible (Handle Rejection)

Today's world is full of variety, and it’s easy to get lost in it. Dating is no different. Not everyone wants the Asian guy. From my own experience, I want to share a few truths: everyone has problems, and not everyone is on your side. That’s why I want to train you to become the best version of yourself—to be respectful, to reclaim your respect, and to win people’s hearts. This isn’t just for Asian men—it’s for anyone who feels like they’re struggling.

The Asian Man’s Crucible

Growing up Asian was tough. Whether they were Black, White, or Hispanic, kids ganged up on Asians. They hurled insults at how we spoke, how we looked, and our culture. I was timid, and I didn’t know how to respond—so I just took it.

That was my Bane arc.

I was drowning in inadequacy. Feeling like I wasn’t good enough. Hollywood’s leading men were tall, blonde, Caucasian. Meanwhile, I was bringing home bad grades and failing to fit into society no matter how hard I tried.

So I made it my mission to become someone respected.

I trained in martial arts for over 15 years, building discipline and quiet confidence. I worked on my body, got in shape, learned grooming, and figured out how to dress well.

But even then, the feelings of inadequacy lingered. Especially when I saw the blatant disrespect Asians continued to face.

Raceplay: WMAF – AMWF – BMAW – DGAF

In the West, Asian women rarely struggle to get dates. For Asian men, it’s often the opposite. And I think I know why.

Stereotypes.

“Asian men are short. Small. Not attractive. Not dominant. Not assertive.”

The list goes on.

Scroll through Instagram and you’re bombarded with top 1% “model-tier” guys, making the competition look impossible. Darker still, there’s a fetish subculture that gets off on emasculating Asian men—casting White or Black men as “superior.”

And then you start to wonder: are some Asian women buying into this? Are they rejecting Asian men because of preference—or because of internalized shame? Are they race traitors, or just women living their lives?

It’s a dangerous corner of the mind, deciding whether to burn with outrage—or to level up and leave it behind.

Father Alex’s Counsel

I think about what it’d be like to be a dad. To raise a daughter. And I’ll admit, sometimes it terrifies me—especially knowing how brutal dating can be.

Is all love good love? I’m not sure.

As an older, wiser, and yes, sexier man, I think more about culture. If I married outside my race, how would that shape my children? Would they grow up leaning toward one culture over the other?

So when I see Asian women with White or Black men, I ask myself: is it genuine preference, or a lack of Asian pride? Are they rejecting Asian men—or just choosing love without borders?

The truth is, this insecurity isn’t unique to Asians. Every race feels protective when “their women or men” date outside the group. It’s rejection at a primal level. And rejection always hurts. 

But here’s the truth: it’s rooted in insecurity. The best way through it is inward—find a flaw, own it, and realize it’s never a true limitation. Not in dating, not in life.

Legacy (What Gen Z Doesn’t Get)

When I was younger, I had a wild dream: to have kids with women from all over the world. To spread my family name across nations like a modern Genghis Khan. It wasn’t a fetish—it was pride. Pride in legacy.

What many don’t realize is that marriage and children aren’t just personal choices—they shape family trees for generations.

For Asian men, the idea of keeping the bloodline pure while also dreaming of mixed-race children is a paradox. Monogamy makes the choice harder: one partner, one path. So you have to plan your future carefully.

Raise kids with love and cultural respect. Have enough children to ensure the family name continues. Or, like the Rockefellers, protect legacy through structure and strategy.

Whatever you choose, legacy matters. More than most realize.

Taking Back Respect

I’ve met good people and bad people across all races—including my own. What matters is respect. Too often, I let people walk over me for being Asian. No more.

Step one: own yourself. If you hate your race, height, or looks, you’ll never respect yourself. And if you don’t respect yourself, how can you expect others to?

Step two: vet people. Observe them, test them, and only let in those who show real respect.

Step three: know when to call it out—and when to walk away. Sometimes silence, backed by self-worth, is more powerful than confrontation. That’s real social mastery.

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The Unhinged Truth

Korean women in dating fall into archetypes. And honestly, these translate to other ethnicities too.

Open Mindeu

In Korea, she’s proud of her culture, posting in Hangul and living fully Korean—but she’s open to dating foreigners who respect that.

In America, she grew up with Korean customs but adapts easily to American culture. She’s dated mostly Asians, but she’s open to others—sometimes out of curiosity, sometimes out of genuine connection. Korean American women, more than men, tend to “code shift” between cultural worlds. And often, they do it better.

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"White is 'Right'"

This is mainly a Korean American thing where the girl only prefers dating white guys because she is only attracted to them. Subconsciously, this might