How I Slowly Built Bulletproof Confidence—You Can Too

This is for anyone who has struggled with self-esteem, depression, or anxiety. I've been there, and sometimes still struggle. But every year I made self-improvement gains. Every day I intentionally decided to be better and over time, with tremendous pain, I took myself out of that mental quicksand. Now I'm here to pay it forward.

Even though you may have a different path than mine, what you learn here will help you get out of that mental trap quicker.

I am not a mental health professional, nor am I a doctor. But I trust that you will hear what I say, at least, with a grain of salt.

The reason you are caught in this mental cycle of negativity, low self-worth, depressed-tiredness, and cyclical anxiety is that your negative words hold more power than your positive ones.

Despite reciting positive affirmations, which may have temporary power, you quickly relapse because you are suspicious. You don't believe it is realistic and so you revert to your baseline of "realistic negativity."

Even worse, you have people around you who chirp in your ears saying that negative realism is reality, so you never get to enjoy the temporal pleasure of positive affirmations. You never take action on that childlike faith of big ambitions. Therefore, it becomes a self-fulfilled prophecy.

Today is the day you take these negative words to the grave and leave them there.

After this email, you will become a positive titan—you WILL have positive self-worth.

FIRST: Realize that being net zero takes time. A LOT of time. What net-zero means is that the amount of negative self-speak gets neutralized by the same amount of positive self-speak. Eventually, the goal is to be net positive.

SECOND: Do an audit and figure out what are your triggers. What is causing the most amount of negative self-speak in your life?

  • Is it when you are browsing Instagram, and see all the 6' Gigachads getting all the hot women, thus feeling inferior?
  • Conversely, if you are a woman, do you feel the same amount of inadequacy when you see a beautiful model 10 on your timeline?

THIRD: Do an audit of yourself and be honest with yourself—Are you truly maxing out all of your potential?

  1. Looks: Are you well-groomed and have a good fashion sense?
  2. Personality: Did you develop a decent base level of charisma and social skills?
  3. Social Proof: Do you have a core group of friends that promote you on a networking and fulfillment basis?
  4. Finances: Are you on a good trajectory to meet your goals on a financial and career basis?
  5. Fitness: Are you maximizing your health and fitness for your own goals?

FOURTH: Chances are, you are already an expert at socially comparing yourself based on all of the list items above, and you feel inadequate because you are lacking in more than one of those fields. Understand, that you do NOT have to master all of those items. The goal is actually to begin developing those items slowly over time and gain positive self-worth as a result of those micro gains. Small gains multiply and compound over time. Negative self-talk and inaction as a result of depression gets you into crippling debt in more ways than one.

FIFTH: Self-development is not for the superficial. Understand that your negative self-worth came as a result of labeling yourself low comparatively to others. You should do away with this mindset because when you start labeling others, you will become an asshole that nobody wants to be with. Learning to love yourself for who you are currently, and for who you will become in the future will help you develop the micro gains needed to fulfill your potential. Likewise, do not judge others in their journey in life. Network with them and you will be surprised at how much they can add to your life via social proof above.

This is a lot, but when you signed up for this personal journey you knew what the cost entailed. It is a lifetime journey, but I'm here to expedite it for you! Join the newsletter for more.

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Alex Sung

At an early age Alex knew he was different from most kids. He had D's and F's in early education and even had undiagnosed selective mutism alongside other mental health hurdles.

Despite these challenging experiences, he persevered and was able to "Tigerhack" his way to success. He created the Tiger Dojo to help everyone uncover these secrets.


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