The LAST TIME you procrastinate your bucket list!

In 2 Crocs 1, Mode it talked about how Highly Sensitive People procrastinate because of overthinking, and due to being Category 1 HSP's. Knowing this, take an audit of your own life and take inventory of every single bucket list item that you left incomplete. 

Do you procrastinate because of...

What do they have in common? Thinking

If you guessed "thinking", you "thought" right. At some point in your dream lifecycle, you let fear or circumstance get to you, and instead of doing the right things, you went to a source of short-term pleasure to take the edge off (aka to stop thinking about doing the right things). As a result, you developed habits that kept repeating this dream lifecycle (which ultimately ends in death by the way).

Story Time

Bob Thebuidler had a dream about building the biggest YouTube channel the world had ever seen. But time and time again, every time he thought about undertaking this project, the more impossible it seemed. 
"What niche, should I select? How should I market it? I'm not a 'people' person, so can I really do this? Which YouTube guru should I listen to, to begin this project? What will my friends and family think?" These were just a few of the questions that Bob kept feeding back to himself, and every single time, without fail, he stopped his dream to take the edge off his thoughts by watching Mr. Beast videos for 8 hours. 
Bob did this every single day for 365 days, and before he knew it, a year passed, and he did not make any progress toward his bucket list dream. A year turned 10, and he was now 35 years old stuck in the same dream lifecycle. 

✂️______Cut it out______

Cut out anything in your life that is causing you to revert to old behaviors and habits. This is the hardest part because any change is hard. These behaviors that you formed, hardened over decades and calcified into habits. And they were formed by your mind out of self-preservation or "avoidance". So, the first thing I want you to do is gently apologize to yourself every time you catch yourself reverting to old habits. I need you to love yourself for being imperfect, but slowly perfect yourself over time, almost as if you are parenting yourself. Cut the cycle. 

1st exercise: Positive Self-talk

• Find the positive in the situation and salute yourself anytime you did something good!

• Love yourself for who you are right now, but aim for slightly better (in small increments)

• Not all diamonds are perfect, but you aim to purify yourself slowly over time💎 (lab-made diamonds are shinier and faster, but brittle)

• Even if you reverted back to your old dream lifecycle, do not revert to negative self-talk. Focus on positive energy only. 

• For every 1 negative self-talk, you must quickly do 2 positive self-talk. 

• The goal is to create positive behaviors, and eventually positive habits. This can only be done with positive reinforcement. 

2nd exercise: Lower the variables

• To reach the next level, you must take that next-level step (when you are ready). 

• Chances are, you are slowly making progress, but now that steady progress is slowing even more. 

• Now, you are at a good self-esteem level, but you are at a standstill. In order to get out of the rut, you must take that next-level jump. 

• Figure out which bucket list item is the one you have procrastinated the longest and find a way to do that!

• In order to ensure you follow through on your commitment, you must find a way to lower the thoughts that will cause you to "avoid" it. 

• Find something to eliminate; especially the variables or factors that will cause you to overthink. 

A bucket list item I put off for nearly a decade was competing in IBJJF World Championships, and one variable I eliminated was cutting weight. I competed in my natural weight class so that I wouldn't think too heavily about cutting weight. That allowed me to free up mental capital. 

3rd & Final exercise: Stop comparing 

Do what makes you happy and be alpha about yourself. 

• What do alpha wolves have in common with other alpha wolves? They lead by doing and by making a decision as the head of the pack. 

• Yes, in this socio-culture, women can also be alpha wolves too! 🐺

• Don't compare yourself with other people, and don't buy into the social norms. Only beta wolves' gossip and slander others (i.e., "She's TOO old to do YouTube, she's already 30 years old!)

• Anytime you find yourself drifting into herd behavior (beta wolf), find 2 things to compliment yourself on, for every 1 negative self-talk.